A'nesis Retreats and Counseling Sabbaticals

Come Away to a Quiet Place and Rest Awhile ~ Christian Retreats with Intensive Counseling



Since September 2015 my life has been a roller coaster of change.  Not to bore you with the blow by blow details, but the bottom-line is that last fall my home and ministry moved from a quiet little mountain town southwest of Denver, Colorado to the beautiful green countryside near Nashville, Tennessee.

Not sure if any of you have ever picked up and moved across the United States.  It is not anything I would recommend if you are faint at heart.  Imagine handling every little piece, every box, every drawer, every shelf, every closet in your entire house.  After touching that item you have one of four decisions:

1). Is it important enough to put it in the 10 x 12 pod?

2). Should I “re-home” it at a very reduced price via the online garage sale?

3). Is it valuable enough to take it to the local goodwill?

4). Does it just need to be shared with the Waste Management folks?

Once here in Tennessee I began the process of finding all the new places that would be part of my daily routine like groceries and gas and such.  Then there was the Driver’s License and Car Registration ordeal.  It actually took three trips to the Car Registration office to get that done.  It has literally taken my husband and I an entire year to feel “settled” in to our new life here in Tennessee.

Change is always hard for me.  I’ve never liked change.  This is why God has to make it VERY CLEAR to me when it is time to move on.  Otherwise, I will hang around until the last dog dies and there is no air to breathe.

The one verse that got me through the entire ordeal was Colossians 1:17.  “And He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together.”  I just kept repeating to myself, “He is before all things that touch me.”  This gave me so much comfort to know that letting go of my Colorado life was something God already had gone before me in.  It was no surprise to Him.  He went to Tennessee and prepared a place for me before I even knew the plan.  He held me together through all the transition.

Looking back, I am amazed…as Paul would say, “sorely amazed” at what a good job God did in preparing my new ministry home in Tennessee.  It truly was “more than I could ask or imagine.” Ephesians 3:20 came to life and I’m living in it today.  He has truly done “more than I ever asked or could have dreamed of.”

It seems trite to say, but “God is good.”  God truly is good all the time.


Wives World ~ What Women Want

Everyday I work with women of all sizes, shapes, stature, financial positions, married, single…on and on.  What is the common longing of the heart for these hurting women?  It’s a question a popular movie some years back tried to answer.  As a matter of fact it’s the question that the male population has been asking since well literally the beginning of time.  Can’t you just imagine Adam throwing up his hands in frustration? “Good grief, Eve!  I ate the fruit and you’re still not happy. Now you want me to find you a fig leaf.  What else will it take to please you?”

What do women want?  Women want to be heard.  They want to know that someone is listening to their heart.  Trouble is, for a people group whose biggest desire to be heard it is odd the ways we go about showing it.  We throw 1,000’s of words at an overwhelmed guy expecting him to hear every single word.  Little do we know that the average guy can only process about ten words at a time. (Not because he isn’t brilliant, but because of his single-focusing brain).  Or we have this pattern.  We shrug our shoulders and walk off.  This non-verbal means “you’re not hearing me…you’re not listening to me.”  Of course the slamming doors also are a huge signal that a woman wants her heart to be listened to.  In reality, who wants to go towards a slamming door with open arms?

I try to help women understand these dysfunctional communication styles.  But mostly I help them “be heard.”  Both by my listening ears and heart and also by the One Man who always listens, never leaves, never disappoints.  Did you know the word NEVER in Greek, means a double negative NO.  It’s twice the power of NO.  So Jesus will twice the power of NO not listen to our heart.  I think this is the starting place.  Gaining confidence in our hearts by knowing He listens to us will help us navigate the times when others in our life don’t hear us.Image