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Wives World ~ Marriage Saver Tip

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I’ve been counseling marriages in crisis for seven years now. (officially).  There is a common denominator for every marriage in trouble.  I wish I’d actually kept a record of the numbers so I could give you an actual statistic like:  “four out of five failed marriages have this in common.”

This marriage saver tip is so simple that it escapes the eyes of the most serious observer.  The number one complaint with women is not the toilet seat being up all the time.  This actually probably runs a close second.  The number one wish for all women is that…(drumroll)…their husbands would take the trash out…and that would be without complaining, mumbling, or slamming it around as they drag it out. 

Something about doing this menial, subservient task gives women tangible evidence that they are cared for.  This is exactly the problem however.  For men, the mindset is that they are an engineer, a pilot, a captain…why should they have to stoop so low as to take out the trash?  They are afterall providing for the family in a huge way!

Ironically, it is this small act of servitude that speaks to a woman’s heart.  There is a message of humility…”I know this blesses you, so I will choose to love you by being your garbage man.”  It follows along with the lesson taught by Jesus.  It was in serving that He showed His love.  He humbled himself in service.  Those around Him felt incredibly blessed and loved.

Every Monday evening my sweet hubby goes from room to room gathering up the trash.  It’s a ritual I could set my clock by.  Every Tuesday morning he faithfully wheels out that big green garbage can curbside.  Not once have I heard him complain.  He just does it.

 I probably don’t thank him enough for “his service.”   I forget to tell him that when my car goes out of the garage in the morning to work, I look over and see that dumpster sitting at the edge of our driveway.  I get a warm fuzzy in my heart.   It starts my day out right you know.  His servant’s heart has blessed me and I feel loved.

Author: Anesis Retreats and Counseling Sabbaticals

Trudy Johnson is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Colorado, Tennessee and Arizona (Associate). Her passion is to help women recover from past abuse and trauma with the goal of living productive, transformed lives. Trudy is a Certified Trauma Specialist with several trauma resolution trainings at her disposal. She has a Doctorate Degree in Biblical Counseling and adheres to a Biblical belief system and theologies. Many of her trauma trainings are cutting edge from Arizona Trauma Institute. In 2018 the Lord began showing Trudy an amazing process to identify Strongholds and Heart guards (blocks to giving and receiving love from others and from God) through her copyrighted method of trauma resolution called "Emet". The word emet is Hebrew for "Truth." In 2020 Trudy's trainings for this process will be offered to other professionals needing new Holy Spirit Trauma tools.

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